WHO WOULD YOU BE WITHOUT YOUR FEARS?
Your Strengths > Your Fears
Me: What is your greatest strength?
Client: My honesty.
Later in the conversation…
Client: I often don’t confront issues because I don’t want to hurt others’ feelings and I don’t like the drama.
Me: So, are you being honest then? How do the people in your life get to benefit from your Strength of Honesty if you are unwilling to offer it?
It is these kinds of conversations I frequently have with my clients. And they are why I do what I do.
If my “honest” client shields the people in her life from her genuine thoughts, are they able to experience the BEST of her, or is she shortchanging them? What would her relationships be like if she showed up as her authentic self? How much richer would her life, and the lives of those she loves, be if she were confident in her Strengths?
How often do you hold back your strengths out of perceived deference? How many times have you said to yourself something like this:
- They don’t really want to hear what I have to say
- She doesn’t want to know what I think
- He won’t like my answer
- If I take charge they won’t like me
- If I do it “my way” she’ll reject me
- Every time I’m “myself” I lose friends
You know what we are VERY good at doing? Becoming what we THINK “they” want us to be. When we come to terms with who we genuinely are, we find that no one knows us…not even ourselves. We think we are an honest person, but then we see the truth that we tell lies all the time. Oh no, not the bold-faced ones; but we tell “white” lies or “fib” consistently in an attempt to be accepted. And what are other people accepting? Not who we really are! No, they accept the illusion we have crafted.
What fear is causing you to deny your authentic self? The fear of rejection? The fear of failure? The fear of discomfort?
What conversations would you have? What experiences would you pursue? What would you create? Who would you ask out? What business would you start?
WHO WOULD YOU BE?